Have you considered going down the route of using an ATN Tacker instead of a spinnaker pole ?
I've got one and have used it single handed along with a snuffer, and have found it very easy to use in light winds. Up to now I've not tried using it in anything above force 2 to 3 where an extra pair of hands might make a difference
The following web address shows the item and they have a short video demonstrating its use
www.atninc.com/atn-tacker-sailing-equipment.shtmlI can confirm that it is as easy to use as the demonstration video shows. They are sold in the UK by Seateach, and I guess you would need the largest of the three sizes on offer. I had been looking at getting a spinnaker pole, but after using the Tacker the idea of a spinnaker pole has gone out of the window.
Good luck with whichever system you choose.