These engines are lifed for between 8-10000 hours. The pattern of use with yours is the best type of usage, and no reason why any of the work you suggest needs doing, except perhaps for the crankshaft oil seal which is probably causing the leak. That is an engine out job and makes sense to change the saildrive diaphragm and lower housing oil seals at the same time to make full use of the labour time. Expect around 20 hours for removal and replacement plus materials for the diaphragm (£3-400) and the cost of replacing the oil seal - maybe 10 hours at most.
If it starts well, runs to maximum, does not smoke or overheat then doubt there is any need to do anything with the injectors or the heat exchanger. Make sure coolant is clean and tested, although should be changed regularly anyway. By all means remove the elbow, but suspect it will be clear unless you are experiencing loss of power and poor starting.
These engines are best left alone - just change all fluids and filters according to the schedule. Run at the recommended cruising revs (2-2500rpm) with occasional short bursts at maximum. Avoid light load running such as battery charging and low revs motorsailing as much as possible.
Like Rampage my last boat with a 2030 was on charter with a similar regime to yours. Was still running perfectly when I sold it at 3500 hours and the only replacement on the engine was the alternator. Elbow, injectors, heat exchanger, water pump had never been touched.