Hi,
Just wanted to check your system for reefing. This maybe your system already if so discount this post. Obviously if you're reefing to reduce sail then the order. Release the kicker, put the topping lift on, drop the main to beyond the reefing point. Get the luff and leach reefing lines on tight, winch up the main, take the topping lift off, put the kicker on and sail away.
If you follow this system hopefully it will help. You need to take the pressure off the main with the topping lift (on) and the kicker (off)
Hope this helps
Adam